ace/aro as in
not ace as in i dont have sex not aro as in i dont have relationships
ace/aro as in my experiences of sex/romance are fundamentally different from others', and im tired of their experiences being forced on me
ace as in i dont understand why people seem so obsessed with sex at all times
aro as in i dont understand why people seem so dedicated to these preconceptions of what a relationship has to be
ace as in my sexual attraction is entirely non-existent precisely until it exists in full. i dont want anything to do with it until i want everything to do with it
aro as in my desire to do things traditionally considered “romantic” fluctuates and is not a measure of how much i love and care about someone
ace as in using sex or kinks as a metaphor in conversation excludes me. ace as in i dont see whats so special
aro as in i accept no obligation to love someone and hold no obligation for others to love me
ace in as snuggles/kisses/sex are entirely arbitrary divisions that dont make sense to me aro as in friends/lovers/partners are entirely arbitrary divisions that dont make sense to me
ace/aro as in dont assume i like something just because its in one the categories you apply to me ace/aro as in dont assume i hate something just because its not in any categories you apply to me
ace/aro as in do not apply categories to me
so actually, yes
ace as in i dont have sex. aro as in i dont relationships.
because its you who calls them that. its you who forces your labels onto my existence. its you who are unwilling to respect that i experience the world differently than you do.
ace/aro as in im opting out of your confusion